Feeling impatient with yourself? Read this.Mar 11, 2021
It was an intense week at the Jolly Zoo as I have been working furiously to meet a deadline.
This project is a big step for me, so when Past Mel made the choice to do it, she was making it with the viewpoint of knowing that it was going to be worth it in the long run.
However, when I had to actually start going through the project and writing it and building it, it felt like it was taking forever. It felt like it was way too hard. And like I was never going to finish it.
Please tell me I’m not the only one who gets this way... a touch dramatic when I’m in the messy middle?
When is my future going to get here already?
I was talking with one of my coaching clients this week and she was expressing the same thing. A lot of my coaching clients and students finish up my course and they've gone from feeling kind of stuck and without direction, or pulled in multiple directions, to having a brighter and clearer vision of the future.
Which is awesome, because that means they can start working intentionally towards creating the kind of future they want to live. However, once you've created that kind of vision, it can be easy to get impatient and wonder why it's taking so long to get there.
Are we there yet?
One of the things I teach my students is that it's not only about achieving the goal, it's about the process of working towards the goal.
It’s about finding joy on the journey.
Which sounds great on a quote graphic… but isn't that comforting when you're in the messy middle and can't see the light at the end of the tunnel.
How can we be more patient?
For me and my students, I noticed we seem feel more impatient when we forget how far we've already come.
Here’s what I mean.
I set some pretty big health goals for myself last year. Namely, I decided to get in the best health of my life. Not the best shape, but the best health.
I'm about a year into that journey and I find that I'm getting impatient with my health. Last year I let some of my positive eating habits slip away. That can seem like a real loss and honestly, I’ve been viewing it that way. (What the heck, Mel! Why have you started eating so much cereal? Don’t you know it’s all sugar!?)
Then, I finally remembered I spent last year focused on other areas of my health:
- I did physical therapy (and actually did my exercises) and got so much stronger.
- I focused on how I could improve my sleep and I'm sleeping better now that I was a year ago.
- I completely cut my addiction to caffeine.
Those are all major advancements.
And when I think about that, I start to see how far I've come and how I'm much closer to getting in the best health of my life, even though my eating habits are not where I want them and I'm a different size now that I was a year ago.
You find what you look for. Look for progress.
If you find that you're feeling impatient… that you have this vision for Future You… maybe Future You has an Etsy store, or a finished book, or a podcast, or has hit a bestseller list, or has reached a certain level of financial freedom… if you find yourself wondering when the heck that's going to happen…
Make a list of how far you've come.
THIS WEEK’S CHALLENGE
“What advancements have I made in pursuit of my dream? How am I closer today than I was X time ago?”
Literally write it down. That’s what it took for me… writing about it in my journal. You find what you're looking for. And seeing your progress might not make the thing you're working towards come any faster, but it will help you see how you actually are moving towards your goal. (And it arguably might make it come faster because you'll feel more motivated, but I digress.)
If you want to clarify your vision for Future You...
Or you're not feeling motivated to do the work, or you don't have a strategy on how to get there, check out my course.
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You’ve got this!
Your 5-Star Life Coach,
P.S. The reason I’m always asking you so many questions is because I want you to create your version of a meaningful life. I don't have all the answers (and neither does anyone else) because only you are living your life. So seriously ask yourself, “How am I closer to living my 5-Star (best) life today than I was 10 years ago? 5 years ago? 1 year ago?”
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