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Why bother dreaming big? focus goals motivation Jan 02, 2021

As I rolled over my spreadsheets for the year, I found my annual plans from 2015-present and I realized something important: I put “create course” on my list in 2015 (and 2016 and 2017 and 2018), but I didn’t officially accomplish that goal until 2019.

Now, I could feel bad...

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Avoid New Year's Resolution Overwhelm focus goals joy Jan 01, 2021

Happy New Year! I’m just interrupting your regularly scheduled Mel programming to offer up a timely tip. With the rollover of a new year, I think we can either:

Get so overwhelmed with our bright, shiny, I-will-make-this-year-better-than-last-year-so-help-me-Dolly-Parton plans that we end...

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How to have a happy holiday in COVID times joy less stress Dec 05, 2020

As we’re in the midst of a holiday season that’s looking pretty different from last year, I want to circle back to a question I’ve asked you before.

What are you looking forward to?

I’m a little familiar with spending the holidays alone or differently than you’d...

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Overwhelmed with holiday deals? Nov 27, 2020

MEL: I’ve got to get on Amazon and see if that espresso maker is on sale for Black Friday!

MEL’S SISTER: I hate Black Friday sales.

MEL: Why?

MEL’S SISTER: Too much stress and decision making and worry about missing out.

That’s kind of the whole marketing point behind...

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Read this if you're struggling with expectations less stress positive impact productivity Nov 20, 2020

The Jolly Zoo is celebrating Thanksgiving today with a Cracker Barrel feast-in-a-box. I’m pretty sure that’s not what they call it, but that’s basically what it is.

The steps to enjoy a feast-in-a-box are:

  1. Order the feast-in-a-box online.
  2. Drive to Cracker Barrel and pick up...
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Read this if you're having trouble disconnecting less stress motivation positive impact Nov 13, 2020

It’s been a rainy week here at the Jolly Zoo. On Thursday we had 8 inches in 24 hours. But, because I work from home and our power remained intact, I was able to continue life as usual.

Thursday evening a friend called:

HER: Can you believe how bad it is?

ME: How bad what is?

HER: …

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Giving up your goals? Coasting into the new year? goals motivation Nov 06, 2020

I plan my year in rolling quarters, which means I always have 3 desktop size calendar pages up on my wall. I just changed them to Nov, Dec, Jan. Looking at the calendar, I realized:

There’s still plenty of time left in the year to work on your goals!

Yes, it’s true. There are 8 weeks...

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Read this if you've been stressed out less stress Nov 01, 2020

Being Very Stressed for long periods of time is not Very Helpful in the grand scheme of our first world lives. The stress response is there to help us humans run away from tigers that might want to eat us or fight bears that might want to eat us… or generally to help us stay alive and...

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How to Get Motivated When You Don't Wanna motivation Oct 24, 2020

Yesterday, I had some things that needed to get done, but I Did. Not. Feel. Like. Working. My sister suggested I take an impromptu day off, but here’s what I knew:

Sunday Mel would be so mad that Saturday Mel hadn’t taken care of those tasks.

So after rejecting her first suggestion, I...

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Are you dividing your focus? goals productivity Oct 17, 2020

Here at the Jolly Zoo, we’ve been working hard on decluttering and reorganizing our space and it feels so good.

Decluttering is something I wanted to do for a long time, but I never even began to tackle it because it was such an overwhelming project. I mean, my house isn’t huge, but...

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Is multitasking real? focus productivity Oct 17, 2020

In my rest time this week, I picked up one of my favorite books, MANAGE YOUR DAY-TO-DAY: Build Your Routine, Find Your Focus & Sharpen Your Creative Mind edited by Jocelyn K. Glei.

I happened to reread the essay about multitasking by Dr. Christian Jarrett. Now you know I always say…

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Read this if you've been feeling anxious & unproductive in 2020 focus productivity Oct 10, 2020

I recently read DIGITAL MINIMALISM by Cal Newport. It’s a great book that covers everything from why we’re addicted to social media (it’s rigged to be addictive), how we’re depriving our brains of the opportunity to think our own thoughts (because when faced with a moment...

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